Resources

I recommend the following books for individuals and couples interested in learning more about themselves and their relationships

  • Practical solutions for saving and restoring relationships. This book is ideal for helping you work on your marriage, even when your spouse is wanting out.

  • Written for couples who are looking for tools and tips on how to improve the quality of their relationship and create the kind of marriage that endures.

  • Helps couples understand the dynamics behind attachment, trust and love in their relationships. This is a must read for those interested in understanding what attracts partners to each other in their relationships.

  • Provides education and information to explain the dynamics involved in often destructive and unhealthy relationships. It addresses "why we love people who hurt us" and focuses on emotional manipulation and codependency as foundational elements in such dysfunctional relationships.

Please see these websites if you are interested in learning more about the Collaborative Divorce model and process

  • Collaborative Divorce Texas is the premier organization in collaborative divorce in the State of Texas, recognized worldwide as the "go to" organization. You can get general information about the collaborative process as well as detailed information about practicing professionals in your area.

  • Collaborative Divorce Dallas is a group of like-minded attorneys, mental health professionals, and financial professionals who are committed to collaborative practice and often work together in interdisciplinary teams in Dallas and Collin Counties.

  • The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals is an internationally based organization providing a wealth of information about collaborative work around the world, as well as offering tools, resources, and profiles of practicing professionals.

I recommend these resources for help in managing the divorce process for parents and for children

Websites and Articles:

  • Child Centered Divorce is a support network for parents where you will find tips on parenting during and after divorce, divorce support, advice & strategies for parents, parenting resources, coaching & teleclasses.

  • This article is designed to assist and educate parents going through the divorce process on how to best facilitate their children’s adjustment to divorce. Although written ideally for couples using the collaborative law process to restructure their families, the information speaks to and would be of benefit to all divorcing parents.

  • This article is designed to assist and educate parents about how to talk to their children about a pending divorce. It includes the critical, must-tell messages to be shared with your children.

Books for Parents:

  • Helps parents understand the emotional roller coaster of divorce for themselves as well as how to help their children cope with the divorce experience.

  • Offers insight into how to create an effective co-parenting relationship after divorce for the benefit of the children. She offers guidelines for developing effective parenting plans and how to best develop two homes for children post-divorce.

  • Provides guidance on establishing and developing an effective co-parenting relationship so that your child can make a healthy transition to living in two homes.

Books for Children*:

  • This is ideal for very young children, and has the added advantage of being usable with either boys or girls. It is a picture book describing the experience of divorce that can be read to a pre-school age child, or that a slightly older child can read on their own.

  • Suitable for young children. Max, the basset hound, helps your child process and understand the emotions children often experience when parents divorce.

  • An excellent book for parents to read with a young child, or one that a school age child can read on their own. It focuses on the feelings that children often experience when their parents divorce, and can be appropriate for boys or girls.

  • This common-sense guide helps school age and pre-teen children understand many of the issues involved when their parents divorce. It is designed to answer many of the questions that children of this age have about divorce as well as life after divorce.

  • Zoe and Evan, two young teenagers, answer questions, offer insight, and provide guidance about divorce from their own unique perspective on their parents’ divorce.

*Note to Parents: Always be sure to read a book first prior to reading it with your child or giving it to him/her to read on their own.